Analyse Me
First day at my psychology course was interesting.
It was kind of difficult. Most of others seemed to have had counselings in the past or been studying psychology. On top of that, I was the only non-native English speaker.
But anyway I found it fascinating.
Our homework was to bring our latest dream.
Mine was the one I had the night I decided to take that course and sent the coordinator my application form.
I was in my hometown, I met very old friends, hung out with them for a while, and they said they had somewhere to go and just disappeared. But soon other friends appeared and we hung out, still they never stayed long.
And then I met my ex-boyfriend, who happened to be Ben Folds ( I like his music but don’t fancy him at all so it was a bit weird). He too, left in rush saying he had a concert that night in my town.
I was left alone, I felt fine but at the same time I felt I should have clung on to him because I was alone.
I woke up and thought there was no hidden message.
I haven’t met any of my friends recently simply because 1. I’m skint 2. I’m busy with my job and my project 3. Just don’t feel like it.
So perhaps I was feeling lonely. I didn’t know about Ben Folds but he actually was my ex, the “someone”.
So I told people about my dream.
They tried to analyse it, and the teacher said, “When you are trying to do something new, something old must go”.
Wow, that kind of makes sense. Yet I’m hardly Jung.
Anyway I think I’m gonna enjoy it.
And today my colleague sent me a link to Enneagram
This is not the one but I tried several times from different websites.
And I was Type 2.
The Helper (the Two)
Helpers are warm, concerned, nurturing, and sensitive to other people’s needs.
How to Get Along with Me
- Tell me that you appreciate me. Be specific.
- Share fun times with me.
- Take an interest in my problems, though I will probably try to focus on yours.
- Let me know that I am important and special to you.
- Be gentle if you decide to criticize me.
- Reassure me that I am interesting to you.
- Reassure me often that you love me.
- Tell me I’m attractive and that you’re glad to be seen with me.
In Intimate Relationships
What I Like About Being a Two
- being able to relate easily to people and to make friends
- knowing what people need and being able to make their lives better
- being generous, caring, and warm
- being sensitive to and perceptive about others’ feelings
- being enthusiastic and fun-loving, and having a good sense of humor
What’s Hard About Being a Two
- not being able to say no
- having low self-esteem
- feeling drained from overdoing for others
- not doing things I really like to do for myself for fear of being selfish
- criticizing myself for not feeling as loving as I think I should
- being upset that others don’t tune in to me as much as I tune in to them
- working so hard to be tactful and considerate that I suppress my real feelings
Twos as Children Often
- are very sensitive to disapproval and criticism
- try hard to please their parents by being helpful and understanding
- are outwardly compliant
- are popular or try to be popular with other children
- act coy, precocious, or dramatic in order to get attention
- are clowns and jokers (the more extroverted Twos), or quiet and shy (the more introverted Twos)
Twos as Parents
- are good listeners, love their children unconditionally, and are warm and encouraging (or suffer guilt if they aren’t)
- are often playful with their children
- wonder: “Am I doing it right?” “Am I giving enough?” “Have I caused irreparable damage?”
- can become fiercely protective
9types.com
Although some of them I can’t or don’t want to agree, it’s interesting to discover about myself.
Especially now I’m working on a very important Principle, Goal-Setting.
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