Principle 2. “Be Clear Why You’re Here”
Pretty straight forward yet surprisingly difficult.
Find out your true purpose in your life.
It took me long time to figure out. When I first read this chapter, which was about one week ago, I thought and thought and thought about this.
And now the second time, it finally became clearer.
It’s said in the book, “To be “on purpose” means you’re doing what you love to do, doing what you’re good at and accomplishing what’s important to you.”
I’ve been me for more than 30years and still I was not sure what I love to do, what I’m good at.
Well I love shopping but obviously I’m not good at it considering the debt I’ve got, and I can’t really say shopping is important to me.
Only I know what I love to do. But other people might know what I’m good at.
So I sent everybody text message/email, even posted on facebook, asking,
”What am I good at?”
Now my friends are nice. There came:
“I’d say anything and everything”
“Lots of things”
Ooooh so sweet but not really helpful.
My mum:
“Er…Karaoke? You can be a Karaoke Queen.”
Thanks mum, I’ll think about taking part in next X-Factor audition.
Other opinions:
- Organising stuff
- Being strong-minded
- Shopping
- Keeping a friendship. Long term and long distance
- Remaining cool
- Sorry, can’t think about anything
- Massage
- Convincing people
- Adapting
Wow, I didn’t realise I was good at so many things.
And there came another reply from my colleague.
“You are good at making people feel at ease. You are friendly, kind, optimistic, responsible, energetic…I think you are amazing:)”
That was the nicest thing I’ve ever been told.
And this “making people feel at ease”, hit me.
A while ago, my friend C, was desperately in love with someone.
He’d call me whenever she wouldn’t reply to his calls, text messages, or simply when he was upset about something.
Everytime he called me, he was in a state of depression, anger or sadness.
I’d talk to him for 2 hours or more, listening, consoling, comforting, cheering, encouraging him and by the time we said goodbye, he was always happier and relaxed.
Although I suffered from lack of sleep from talking until 2:00am, I felt happy as well. It was rewarding, making a friend happier.
So this may be my purpose. But it was still vague.
I decided to move on to the next exercise.
It’s called “The Life Purpose Exercise”. And the author says it is “a simple but powerful way to create a compelling statement of your life purpose to guide and direct your behavior”.
It did take me for a while but I made it. And I’m quite happy and positive about it.
My purpose is to use my optimism and humanity to cheer and encourage others to smile, respect and understand each other.
As suggested in the book, I am going to “read it every day in the morning”.
Before I knew it, 2011 arrived. I’m on my own, in my tiny studio.
But I’m going to make this year an amazing year.
Happy new year.
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